Hussain Yee – Kissing Children & Showing Mercy to Them – 43 – Our Precious Sprouts

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The speakers emphasize the importance of purifying one's heart and mind with proper knowledge and behavior, educating parents on feeding their children, and monitoring children in the future. They stress the need to be mindful of one's time and to be strong in life. The speakers also emphasize the importance of teaching children to show respect for the elders and culture of the younger siblings, being aware of the consequences of the behavior of strangers, and giving away their children. They emphasize the importance of being alert and being aware of the consequences of the behavior of strangers and offer advice on how to handle it.

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			Subhanallah, la hawla wa la quwwata illa billah.
		
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			Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim.
		
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			Inna alhamdulillahi nnahmaduhu wa nasta'innuhu wa nasta
		
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			'qafiruhu.
		
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			Wa na'udhu billahi min shururi anfusina wa
		
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			say'ati a'malina.
		
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			Man yahadihin la fa la mudillana.
		
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			Wa man yutlil fa la hadiyana.
		
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			Ash hadu an la ila illa Allah wahdahu
		
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			la sharikana.
		
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			Wa ash hadu anna Muhammadan abduhu wa rasuluhu.
		
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			Usikum wa iyyaya awran bi taqullah faqad fa
		
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			'zal mutaqun.
		
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			Qama qal Allahu ta'ala fil quranil karim.
		
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			Ba'da anzu billahi min al shaytanil rajim.
		
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			Ya ayuha lazina amanu taqullah.
		
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			Haqqa tuqatih wa la tamutunna illa wa antu
		
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			muslimun.
		
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			Wa a'tasimu bi hablillahi jami'a wa la
		
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			tafarraku.
		
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			Wazquroo ni'matullahi alaykum iz kuntum a'da'an fa
		
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			'allafa bayna qulubikum.
		
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			Fa asbahtum bi ni'matihi ikhwana.
		
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			Ila al aakhira ayah.
		
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			Wa ba'du fa inna qayrul kalam, kalam Allah.
		
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			Wa ahsanu hadi hadu Muhammadin sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam.
		
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			Wa sharrul umuri muhdathatuhu wa kulla muhdatatin bid
		
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			'a wa kulla bid'atin dalala wa kulla
		
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			dalalatan finnar.
		
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			Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, all praises due to Allah, Rabbul Alameen.
		
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			The one who provide for all of us,
		
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			who give us our life.
		
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			The one who have blessed us with the
		
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			eye that can see, the ear that can
		
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			hear.
		
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			And all the senses that we have with
		
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			us until today.
		
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			All these are the blessing of Allah, taken
		
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			for granted by a lot of people.
		
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			We now reflecting and thinking how to be
		
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			grateful, to be thankful to Almighty Allah, Rabbul
		
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			Alameen.
		
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			The one who give us life through our
		
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			parents.
		
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			And the parents have gone through a lot
		
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			of pain and suffering to bring us up.
		
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			And we keep on forgetting that too.
		
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			We always take life for granted until one
		
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			day we realize that it is too late
		
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			for us to repent.
		
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			Brothers and sisters, every day when the Prophet
		
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			was talking to his Ummah, the Prophet never
		
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			fail to remind his Ummah, Stay
		
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			connected with Allah, have faith in Allah, do
		
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			not be ungrateful to Allah.
		
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			And Allah also said to all of us,
		
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			because He created us, He know our weaknesses,
		
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			He know the problem we are encountering in
		
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			life.
		
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			Because we keep on forgetting and we are
		
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			very careless.
		
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			So He said, Remind one
		
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			another, engage with one another, talk to one
		
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			another.
		
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			In Islam, when Allah said, What is Zikr?
		
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			If you look in other Ayah, Allah said,
		
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			Indeed we are the one who have revealed
		
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			the Zikr.
		
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			And we will protect the purity of this
		
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			Zikr.
		
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			What is Zikr?
		
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			The Quran.
		
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			In Surah Jumu'ah verse 2, Allah said,
		
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			Allah chose
		
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			the
		
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			last messenger of Allah, who is Ummiyin.
		
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			Very unique.
		
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			He never chose a professor, he never chose
		
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			a doctor, an engineer to lead the Ummah.
		
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			He chose an unlettered person, Allahu Akbar.
		
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			A very unique choice.
		
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			Normally if you want to choose somebody to
		
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			be someone important in the community, we will
		
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			always choose somebody who are very knowledgeable.
		
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			But Allah's choice is very unique.
		
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			He chose a different person.
		
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			He chose unlettered person.
		
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			Ummiyin, cannot read, cannot write.
		
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			You can write a letter to him, he
		
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			just can't read.
		
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			He will call the companions who is close
		
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			to him to read.
		
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			Inform him everything.
		
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			The brothers can sit in front, bring the
		
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			chair and put, join the other brothers.
		
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			Inshallah.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Then, when they explain everything to the Prophet,
		
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			then the Prophet have faith in what they
		
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			have explained to him.
		
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			He just use his ring.
		
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			He have a ring, written there, Muhammad Rasulullah.
		
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			And he stamp on any kind of letter
		
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			that he have to confirm that he receive
		
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			it.
		
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			And later on he will call a companion
		
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			to write a letter to respond.
		
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			And he stamp again.
		
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			Now what is the difference between the Prophet's
		
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			environment and our?
		
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			Because Allah have prepared for him Hawariyun.
		
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			A group of sincere, honest, committed people around
		
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			him.
		
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			Good people.
		
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			Not like our environment.
		
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			We are good, our children are good.
		
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			But the environment is not good.
		
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			And that's why we have a lot of
		
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			problem.
		
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			Now what do Allah does when he choose
		
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			an unlettered messenger, Prophet?
		
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			And he was chosen to be the last.
		
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			And he was chosen not to send to
		
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			one race, to the Arab, but to mankind,
		
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			the whole mankind.
		
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			Every nation, tribes, have to follow his way.
		
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			Because he was sent as the way to
		
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			Allah.
		
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			The only way.
		
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			You cannot feel that I am okay if
		
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			I follow other people, other way.
		
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			No, you cannot.
		
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			You have to follow the way Allah have
		
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			chosen for us.
		
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			Then Allah taught him his ayah.
		
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			Allah sent angel Gabriel to recite the verses
		
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			of Allah.
		
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			Let the Prophet listen and follow.
		
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			Listen and follow, remember?
		
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			So the best education, the best way to
		
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			educate anybody, ourself, our family, is we have
		
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			to remind everyone, especially children when they're young,
		
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			to listen and obey.
		
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			Listen and obey.
		
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			Simple as that, but we have been failing.
		
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			Because we don't keep on monitoring, reminding.
		
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			When we talk, are they listening?
		
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			Or we just talk for the sake of
		
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			talking.
		
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			Whether they listen or not, that's not our
		
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			problem.
		
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			You have to ask us.
		
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			Very important.
		
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			When we have this discipline from the beginning,
		
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			brothers and sisters, keep on reminding children their
		
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			fitra is they like to play.
		
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			No problem.
		
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			Time for them to play, let them play.
		
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			Time to eat, eat.
		
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			Don't keep on talking a lot when eating.
		
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			Then later on they don't have the desire
		
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			to continue eating.
		
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			Especially don't talk about problem when you're eating.
		
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			The mood of eating will disappear sometimes.
		
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			Just talk about the food.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, tastes good.
		
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			Be grateful.
		
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			Just example.
		
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			Be focused in your communication.
		
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			يَتْلُو عَلَيْهِمْ آيَتِهِ وَيُزَكِّهِمْ Allah is telling us,
		
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			there is no other better way to help
		
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			to develop a good heart, a good understanding,
		
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			to purify your heart and your mind, than
		
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			to use the verses of Allah.
		
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			The verses of Allah is here to purify
		
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			everybody's feeling that you are not sure what
		
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			is good, we don't know.
		
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			We are not sure what is the best
		
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			for us because we are human.
		
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			Our knowledge is very limited.
		
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			If you see today in the internet, one
		
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			day they will tell you how good is
		
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			this thing.
		
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			Don't eat other thing, focus on this.
		
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			Suddenly we also start to follow.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because we want to keep ourselves healthy.
		
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			After few months, there will be another video.
		
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			Call themselves a doctor, scientist.
		
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			Very dangerous.
		
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			This is poison.
		
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			It's killing you.
		
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			Don't eat.
		
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			Stay away.
		
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			Move to another brand, another product.
		
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			So we've been human.
		
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			Very easily will follow.
		
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			Because they call themselves, we make research, doctors,
		
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			scientists.
		
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			Only Allah knows what is behind all this
		
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			issue.
		
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			It's a big business.
		
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			So the only thing that can make sure
		
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			we have some peace is what Allah said.
		
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			Allah never lies.
		
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			Human lies.
		
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			Business people, only Allah knows.
		
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			That's why the Prophet said, مَنْ غَشَّفَ عَلَيْسَ
		
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			مِنَّا Whoever do business have the intention to
		
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			corrupt people just to make profit for themselves.
		
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			He is not my ummah.
		
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			You are out.
		
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			You can say, لا إله إلا الله محمد
		
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			رسول الله The Prophet said, You are not
		
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			my ummah.
		
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			It's gone.
		
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			There's no future anymore.
		
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			You get what you want in this world,
		
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			nothing in akhira.
		
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			So what can make you become a very
		
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			honest, sincere, committed person in whatever you do,
		
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			whatever you say, whatever you, business that you
		
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			get involved, is by purifying your heart and
		
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			your mind.
		
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			Read the book of Allah.
		
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			Read the Quran.
		
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			How many of us check our children when
		
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			they want to sleep?
		
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			Do they read?
		
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			Say, قُلْ هُوَ اللَّهُ أَحَدٌ Example.
		
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			The shortest surah.
		
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			Even that we don't have time.
		
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			We let them with what they want to
		
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			do.
		
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			No problem.
		
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			At this time now, sleeping hour, you have
		
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			all the handphone.
		
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			You don't leave it to them.
		
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			They cannot sleep.
		
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			You just have to collect.
		
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			Collection time.
		
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			Come on.
		
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			Every time, in everything in life, there's a
		
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			limit.
		
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			There are time you're off, there are time
		
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			you're on.
		
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			There was a unit here.
		
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			Something happened because they forget to off the
		
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			fan.
		
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			Let the fan keep on running for days.
		
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			Caught fire.
		
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			Fire brigade have to come.
		
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			You cannot underestimate what is happening.
		
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			Minor thing you thought, it's just a fan.
		
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			But when it's been on non-stop, and
		
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			the family travels, maybe going visit family member,
		
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			forget to off a fan.
		
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			So it's very important to discipline ourselves.
		
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			Children are growing.
		
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			Allah said, قُوْ أَنفُسَتُمُ أَهْلِكُمْ نَارَةً Save yourself,
		
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			save your family.
		
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			Train them.
		
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			Boys, please go down and check.
		
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			Everything off or not.
		
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			Fan off.
		
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			This off.
		
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			We don't even bother to do anything.
		
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			It's up to them.
		
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			Now if you don't discipline them from young,
		
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			you don't guide them, they will never have
		
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			this good habit.
		
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			They will take everything for granted.
		
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			They know how to on, they don't know
		
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			how to off.
		
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			They know how to open the fridge, they
		
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			don't know how to close.
		
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			What is going to happen?
		
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			Whatever been kept inside, kalas.
		
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			Spoiled, we get upset.
		
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			But this is just a reminder.
		
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			What can the book of Allah, the Quran
		
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			do to us?
		
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			To guide you, and to increase your knowledge
		
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			and wisdom.
		
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			Allah said, وَيُعَلِّمُ الْكِتَابِ وَالْحِكْمَةِ Not only this
		
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			book is giving our children the right knowledge.
		
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			Now knowledge will only come when you call
		
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			them to read and they understand.
		
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			How many parents check on their children?
		
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			Have you memorized this surah?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Fatiha?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			How many of them ask them, can you
		
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			explain to mama, daddy, what is surah al
		
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			-fatiha?
		
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			How many parents does that?
		
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			We don't have time.
		
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			Confident, no?
		
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			You have memorized, you send them to school,
		
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			send them to the teacher, and they have
		
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			memorized.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			How many of us play the role as
		
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			a parent to try their level best to
		
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			help the children?
		
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			Engage with that.
		
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			Okay, you memorize the fatiha.
		
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			What is, الحمد لله رب العالمين الرحمن الرحيم
		
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			Call them to explain the meaning.
		
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			Example.
		
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			Why to make sure that whatever they have
		
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			been learning, they understand.
		
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			They value it.
		
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			But if our children has been blessed by
		
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			Allah, they themselves have the awareness, الحمد لله
		
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			they will learn by themselves without we asking
		
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			them.
		
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			Then they may want to confirm with us.
		
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			Papa, mama, see, is that correct what I
		
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			just read?
		
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			Then you may have another problem because we
		
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			don't even memorize.
		
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			I have a lot of students who have
		
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			children, الحمد لله the upbringing was very good
		
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			and the children were sent to read the
		
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			Quran, memorize Quran.
		
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			Now, مقدام clear.
		
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			I'm not going to focus on the long
		
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			surah.
		
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			The short, short مقدام, clear, children memorize.
		
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			So Ramadan comes in, the father always lead
		
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			them in the prayer.
		
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			Every rakaat, first rakaat, قلية, second rakaat, قلوة
		
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			الله.
		
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			So the children was listening so that there
		
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			will be other surah that the father going
		
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			to recite so that they can ممارسة, they
		
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			can gain the benefit, they can follow.
		
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			But the father, the whole Ramadan, قلية, قلوة
		
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			الله, قلية, قلوة الله.
		
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			Then the children came to me one day
		
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			and said, Shaykh, is that okay when we
		
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			feel boring following our father, the imam in
		
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			praying?
		
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			We feel bored, only قلية, قلوة الله, قلية,
		
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			قلوة الله.
		
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			We are waiting for other surah.
		
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			I said, Alhamdulillah, you all have been blessed
		
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			in a way.
		
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			At least your father can recite قلية, قلوة
		
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			الله.
		
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			Some father, no قلية, no قلوة الله.
		
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			Some father cannot be imam, they are always
		
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			good ma'mum.
		
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			At least your father, قلية, قلوة الله, قلية,
		
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			قلوة الله.
		
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			They even said to the father, father, there's
		
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			no other surah that you can recite?
		
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			Boring, right?
		
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			Every night, قلية, قلوة الله, قلية, قلوة الله.
		
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			So this is to remind us, we must
		
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			also do our homework, memorize more than that.
		
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			And we must understand.
		
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			Then when the children have memorized, we want
		
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			them to understand so that they'll gain a
		
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			lot of wisdom.
		
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			Wow, this is what Allah said.
		
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			Yeah, Allah said this.
		
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			Whatever Allah said, 100% right.
		
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			We never go wrong.
		
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			We must connect our children with the Quran.
		
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			But before that, we ourselves must be connected.
		
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			Brothers and sisters, the Quran is a very
		
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			unique book.
		
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			Divine guidance.
		
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			To explain everything in detail so that we
		
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			know what to do, what not to do,
		
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			what to say, what not to say.
		
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			By following the Quran, inshallah, wherever your children
		
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			go, they will be safe.
		
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			They will not easily be corrupted by the
		
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			environment, by their friends.
		
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			Inshallah.
		
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			Because Allah promised us.
		
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			He said, إِنَّ نَحْنُ نَزَّلْنَا الْزِكْرَ وَإِنَّ لَهُ
		
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			لَحَافِظٌ We reveal the final book, the Holy
		
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			Quran.
		
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			And this Quran acts as a reminder.
		
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			And if you are reminded every day and
		
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			you follow the reminder, it will protect you
		
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			like how Allah protect the Quran.
		
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			The Quran is here to protect you.
		
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			Safeguard you from all the evil thing that
		
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			is going to destroy you.
		
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			Simple as that.
		
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			And the beauty of the verses of Allah,
		
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			لَا رَيْبَ فِيه Allah said, قِتَابْ لَا رَيْبَ
		
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			This book, every single ayah in this book,
		
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			every story written by Allah, I mean mentioned
		
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			by Allah, is true.
		
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			لَا رَيْبَ فِيه There's no doubt.
		
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			Everything that Allah said happened is going to
		
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			happen.
		
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			It's nothing, oh, it won't be happening.
		
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			No, it's happening now and going to happen
		
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			in the future.
		
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			So you cannot say, I don't know how
		
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			to do, I don't know what to follow.
		
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			Everything is in the book.
		
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			Look at what Allah said, He know that
		
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			we as human must eat to survive, must
		
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			drink to survive.
		
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			And He taught us how to eat and
		
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			drink.
		
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			قُلُوا وَشْرَبُوا Eat, drink.
		
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			حَلَالًا طَيِّبًا You like to talk, no problem,
		
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			talk.
		
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			قَوْلًا قَرِيمًا قَوْلًا لَيِّنًا قَوْلًا سَدِيدًا When you
		
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			want to talk, teach your children, teach them
		
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			all the good words.
		
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			Teach them the manners how to talk.
		
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			How they talk among the siblings, not screaming,
		
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			shouting.
		
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			But we also must not do this to
		
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			them.
		
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			Use only good words, beautiful words.
		
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			قَلِيمًا طَيِّبًا So that our children now, when
		
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			He speak, He only speak what is good.
		
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			Because He pick up all the good thing
		
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			from us.
		
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			Today we have problem.
		
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			They pick up a lot of word that
		
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			is not good for them at all.
		
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			But they may not know.
		
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			They may not know.
		
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			They thought it's trendy.
		
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			So show you one simple thing that I
		
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			am very, very upset when I hear the
		
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			adult, the young generation using this word.
		
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			Even they are learning about Islam, but it
		
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			become norm to them.
		
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			Hey, guy.
		
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			Is that very common?
		
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			You call your friend guy, guy, guy.
		
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			Later on, hey, gay.
		
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			He got a name.
		
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			Call him by his name.
		
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			At least you say, إِنَّمَا الْمُؤْمِنُونَ أَخْوَ All
		
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			believer are like a family brother.
		
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			Call him, my brother.
		
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			How are you, brother?
		
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			How are you, sister?
		
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			How are you, auntie?
		
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			How are you, uncle?
		
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			How are you, daddy?
		
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			How are you, mommy?
		
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			Today I was having a full day course
		
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			yesterday on marriage, family, how to start to
		
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			build a home, how to handle in-laws.
		
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			Can you imagine today sometimes you have, you
		
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			give your daughter to a man.
		
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			You see that he seems to be a
		
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			good man.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			He pray.
		
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			He pray, alhamdulillah.
		
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			He read Quran, alhamdulillah.
		
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			But surprisingly, this man who become your family
		
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			now, don't ever, never use the word mommy,
		
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			ummi, mama, never call the mother-in-law
		
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			with her status as a mother.
		
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			Never even call the father-in-law with
		
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			the status of papa, abuya, daddy.
		
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			You, you, you, you.
		
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			Is that good?
		
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			It's very bad.
		
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			You don't acknowledge your in-law as a
		
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			mother figure and father figure.
		
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			It's very bad.
		
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			Or maybe western value.
		
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			We are Muslim.
		
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			Sometime people take this lightly.
		
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			I talk one.
		
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			Anytime, how are you?
		
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			Who are you talking to?
		
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			Friend, no problem.
		
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			This is your father figure.
		
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			You married their daughter and you don't even
		
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			use the word.
		
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			That's why we call father-in-law, mother
		
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			-in-law, not friend-in-law.
		
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			Just an example.
		
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			Not yet Muslim.
		
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			My family, the Chinese value, if they bring
		
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			their children, anybody elder, don't forget call uncle,
		
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			don't forget call auntie, they will remind.
		
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			These are values.
		
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			And this value is in the Quran and
		
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			the Sunnah.
		
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			Respect the elders.
		
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			Love the young one.
		
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			To the extent the Prophet said, you are
		
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			not one of my followers if you don't
		
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			respect the elder.
		
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			And the elders don't have feeling, love, passion
		
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			to the younger one.
		
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			Both sides.
		
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			This is about family.
		
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			Now today we are coming back to page
		
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			152.
		
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			Is it 152?
		
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			Inshallah.
		
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			Talking about kissing children and showing mercy to
		
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			them.
		
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			Tamam.
		
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			Kissing children.
		
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			It is recommended to show mercy to children
		
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			in many ways.
		
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			This was often done by our Prophet, peace
		
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			be upon him, the best of mankind, Muhammad,
		
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			peace be upon him.
		
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			As we have shown throughout this book, I
		
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			mean this book about family values, we have
		
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			shared with all our good brothers and sisters
		
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			from the beginning and still continuing.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			The Prophet is the best example.
		
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			Even Allah said, You want to be a
		
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			good father, look at him.
		
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			You want to be a good husband, look
		
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			at him.
		
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			You want to be a good businessman, look
		
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			at him.
		
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			You want to be a good leader, look
		
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			at him.
		
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			Everything is in this man.
		
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			And that's why Allah commands us to follow
		
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			him.
		
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			And Allah is telling us he is the
		
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			best example.
		
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			And we keep on failing.
		
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			We thought there is another person who are
		
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			better.
		
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			So we know this hero, we know this
		
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			actor, we know this celebrity more than the
		
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			Prophet.
		
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			What is happening to us?
		
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			Just look at one man, get to know
		
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			him.
		
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			But then every year, majority of the people
		
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			in this part of the world celebrate his
		
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			birthday to show their love.
		
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			Oh, I love Prophet Muhammad a lot.
		
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			I make salawat day in, day out.
		
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			And I add more praise upon him.
		
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			You can just name it.
		
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			All the na-na-na is there.
		
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			But what did the Prophet say?
		
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			If you want to make salawat, just follow
		
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			my way.
		
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			I show you the way.
		
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			When Allah said, Allah and the angels make
		
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			salawat upon the Prophet.
		
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			يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُوا صَلُّوا عَلَيْهِ You who
		
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			believe, perform salawat upon the Prophet.
		
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			But you see, the companion is not like
		
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			you and me.
		
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			Immediately they ask the Prophet, how to perform
		
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			salawat?
		
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			And the Prophet respond.
		
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			فَقُولُ اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّي عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ
		
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			قَمَا صَلَّيْتَ عَلَى إِبْرَهِمْ وَعَلَى آلِ إِبْرَهِمْ إِنَّكَ
		
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			حَمِدٌ مَجِدٌ اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّي عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ
		
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			مُحَمَّدٍ قَمَا صَلَّيْتَ عَلَى إِبْرَهِمْ وَعَلَى آلِ إِبْرَهِمْ
		
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			إِنَّكَ حَمِدٌ مَجِدٌ Example.
		
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			Or at least you say, اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّي عَلَى
		
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			مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ مُحَمَّدٍ Don't try to come
		
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			up with your own kind of salawat.
		
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			And give name to this salawat that even
		
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			the Prophet don't even know.
		
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			The Prophet never taught.
		
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			None of the companion recite that manner.
		
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			We keep coming with new innovation, new way
		
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			of making salawat.
		
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			Do you think you know better?
		
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			Do you think the Imam know better than
		
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			Prophet Muhammad how to salawat?
		
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			Think that we don't know.
		
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			What did Allah say?
		
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			Ask.
		
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			When you ask, you must ask with a
		
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			mind that is open, open mind, with the
		
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			pure heart.
		
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			If they say, yeah, this is the best
		
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			way.
		
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			If anybody say, this is the best way.
		
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			Alhamdulillah, number one, remember best way.
		
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			Then we have the right, can I have
		
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			any evidence, dalil?
		
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			Because I'm going to share with my friend,
		
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			but my friend may ask me, do you
		
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			have any reference?
		
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			I do not want to be caught in
		
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			between.
		
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			I'm doing something without knowledge.
		
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			Just hearsay.
		
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			Is that easy?
		
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			Did we ask for that?
		
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			We don't ask.
		
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			See how good our heart is?
		
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			We don't ask.
		
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			There are things that you have to ask.
		
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			Because this is your future.
		
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			You want to do something correct.
		
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			You want to do something that Allah accept.
		
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			You want to do something that you feel
		
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			happy, aman salat.
		
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			And because anything good you want to share
		
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			with your family, your friend, you do not
		
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			want to mislead anybody.
		
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			So everybody say the same thing.
		
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			What the Prophet have taught us is the
		
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			best.
		
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			The Prophet, for instance, he rub over the
		
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			children's head.
		
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			This is something that he like to do.
		
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			He saw children, he like to go to
		
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			them.
		
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			If they don't come to him, he'll go
		
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			to them, rub their head.
		
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			Aman salat, head.
		
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			Some culture, they don't allow you to rub
		
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			head.
		
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			Some culture, the head, some people like to
		
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			come and give a tap at your back,
		
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			batok.
		
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			Some people, why you focus on that area?
		
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			Some people shake hand.
		
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			Some people hug children.
		
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			There's nothing wrong.
		
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			You can even hug them, carry them.
		
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			They're still very light, lightweight.
		
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			Those who are heavyweight, don't carry them.
		
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			You injure yourself.
		
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			The light one.
		
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			It's good.
		
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			Rub the children's head, give them gift, call
		
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			them with nickname something, kunya.
		
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			Give them a good nickname.
		
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			Sometimes they have a father, call them the
		
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			name of the father or the name of
		
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			the mother in case.
		
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			Give them a good name.
		
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			So giving good name to your children is
		
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			very important in Islam because when people call
		
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			the children's name, it's like a prayer, calling
		
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			them.
		
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			Example, can we name our daughter Sakina?
		
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			Mawadda.
		
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			Arabic, sound Arabic, but good meaning.
		
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			Sakina means peace, tranquility.
		
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			Mawadda, love.
		
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			To call them love, love, sometimes people say
		
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			what?
		
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			Love, love.
		
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			In a different language, but the meaning is
		
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			beautiful.
		
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			But then you must make sure that you
		
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			train them, make them have that kind of
		
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			behavior, character.
		
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			They're at peace.
		
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			They bring peace wherever they go.
		
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			Example.
		
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			They are loving children.
		
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			So now they learn how to love their
		
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			sibling.
		
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			They love to clean.
		
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			They love everything that is good, they love.
		
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			That's how you have to educate the children.
		
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			Perform tahniq.
		
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			Can you imagine, brother and sister, the Prophet
		
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			show us all the SOP when you have
		
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			a newborn baby, what to do?
		
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			Not just happy birthday to you.
		
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			No, the Prophet never sing this song.
		
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			Neither any companion sing this song.
		
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			But today a lot of Muslim love this
		
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			song.
		
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			Even you're not happy, but you say happy
		
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			birthday, but you're not happy.
		
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			Sometimes you wish that he's not born, man.
		
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			Azab, these children is problematic.
		
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			Tahniq, what is tahniq?
		
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			And even the Prophet show us, if you
		
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			love your family, seven day of the birth,
		
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			you have confirmed a good name.
		
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			You can choose by yourself, but before you
		
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			affirm this name, registered is an official name,
		
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			double check.
		
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			With people who have knowledge, do this name
		
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			sound good, but do they carry good meaning?
		
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			Sometimes it sound good, meaning is bad.
		
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			Don't name them that, because everybody who's calling
		
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			this name is a prayer to them, praying
		
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			something bad to happen to them.
		
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			Don't do that.
		
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			Name clear, shukr.
		
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			Then on the seventh day, everything must be
		
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			done.
		
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			You do, confirm the name, bring them, or
		
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			you can do that, shave their hair.
		
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			Shave, not cut, shave.
		
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			Starting from the right side, clean this baby
		
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			hair.
		
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			And what do you do with the hair?
		
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			You weigh it on a scale.
		
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			See how many gram, and check the market
		
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			today.
		
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			Online you can check.
		
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			Minimum silver.
		
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			But if you want to give extra, anything
		
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			good, especially donation, food, no problem.
		
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			You want to give the gold value, one
		
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			gram how much, silver is minimum.
		
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			Gold may be expensive, but you have the
		
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			money.
		
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			What is that?
		
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			It's to donate on behalf of the children,
		
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			of your baby.
		
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			You donate that.
		
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			To those, the poor and the needy, who
		
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			deserve it.
		
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			We hope by doing that, we train our
		
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			children from baby, love to give.
		
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			Love to give to the poor and the
		
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			needy.
		
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			Then after shaving the hair, tahniq is recommended.
		
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			Tahniq from the prophet, he will chew dates.
		
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			He will chew the date and get the
		
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			juice from the date.
		
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			And then he will use his finger and
		
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			rub on the gum of the baby.
		
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			And you see, baby start to respond.
		
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			Because baby was not taught to drink anything
		
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			except mother's milk.
		
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			And mother's milk, umum, in general, are not
		
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			sweet.
		
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			But it's just well-balanced nutrition.
		
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			And then the baby will respond.
		
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			While you are doing tahniq, making dua for
		
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			the baby.
		
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			How all the sweet thing is getting to
		
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			his mouth.
		
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			We hope that in the future, whatever he
		
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			say is sweet.
		
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			All the good thing, all the good word.
		
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			Kalima tayiba, kalima hasana.
		
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			Everything is like symbolic.
		
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			The children, the baby don't know.
		
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			What you feed him also he don't know.
		
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			But it's our duty.
		
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			If you feel that you want to chew
		
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			with all the viruses today and everything.
		
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			We don't know whether, you know, sometimes when
		
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			people talk about chewing.
		
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			That the prophet did spit sometimes.
		
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			But prophet is unique.
		
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			Allah bless him with a lot of extra
		
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			miracle.
		
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			But today we also feel that it's okay.
		
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			But sometimes cause harm to the baby.
		
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			If you don't want to use date or
		
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			you don't want to chew by yourself.
		
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			Because we don't know our saliva whether it's
		
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			healthy or not.
		
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			It may cause harm to the baby.
		
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			You can put some zamzam water mixed with
		
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			the date.
		
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			Smash it with your hand and then take
		
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			a bit of the sweetness.
		
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			And rub on the baby's gum.
		
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			Or the other option.
		
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			Something sweet.
		
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			Use honey because the prophet said.
		
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			If you want to seek cure for anything.
		
00:46:04 --> 00:46:06
			Seek cure, remedy from two.
		
00:46:07 --> 00:46:09
			Honey or Quran.
		
00:46:11 --> 00:46:13
			For baby you put honey.
		
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			Just few time you rub at the gum
		
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			and make dua.
		
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			Then akhikar comes in.
		
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			Baby girl, one goat, one sheep.
		
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			Baby boy, two.
		
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			And then you can divide into three part.
		
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			One third you can take.
		
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			One third you give to anybody.
		
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			Your neighbor, your family members, your friend.
		
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			And one third to the poor and the
		
00:46:43 --> 00:46:44
			needy.
		
00:46:44 --> 00:46:46
			From very young now.
		
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			Allah and the prophet is guiding us how
		
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			to do to our newborn.
		
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			So that the blessing that we are doing
		
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			now will go to the baby.
		
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			But we don't even value all this.
		
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			That is what tahniq is.
		
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			So you do.
		
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			Give their nickname, perform tahniq.
		
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			Supplicate for them, dua.
		
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			That is what we do here when people
		
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			send their children, baby.
		
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			We will do this.
		
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			We explain to the parent what to do
		
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			now.
		
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			And how to educate your children from baby.
		
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			Each time when you want to feed your
		
00:47:40 --> 00:47:41
			baby.
		
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			If you feel tired.
		
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			And he is not active enough.
		
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			And now you have extra milk.
		
00:47:56 --> 00:47:57
			You put it in a bottle.
		
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			But when you feed the baby, don't forget
		
00:48:01 --> 00:48:02
			to feed the baby.
		
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			Your right hand, right hand.
		
00:48:07 --> 00:48:08
			Your mid who is going to carry the
		
00:48:08 --> 00:48:08
			baby.
		
00:48:09 --> 00:48:11
			The father, grandmother.
		
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			Remind, use the right hand, right hand.
		
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			Because the prophet say don't eat, don't drink
		
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			with your left hand.
		
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			All these are value.
		
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			Because by right hand you have blessing, barakah.
		
00:48:28 --> 00:48:31
			Not only halal, but halal and mubarak.
		
00:48:34 --> 00:48:35
			That is what we want.
		
00:48:35 --> 00:48:36
			But today people don't care.
		
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			Any hand goes.
		
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			That is not right.
		
00:48:42 --> 00:48:44
			You have to be alert as a parent.
		
00:48:46 --> 00:48:49
			Anybody who want to give food to the
		
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			children, make sure right hand.
		
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			Children don't know.
		
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			For children, they don't know what is right,
		
00:48:58 --> 00:48:59
			what is left sometimes.
		
00:48:59 --> 00:49:01
			But you have to keep on reminding them
		
00:49:01 --> 00:49:02
			from young.
		
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			One day can hear you.
		
00:49:06 --> 00:49:07
			You must discipline them.
		
00:49:08 --> 00:49:09
			But you see a lot of parents fail
		
00:49:09 --> 00:49:10
			to do this.
		
00:49:10 --> 00:49:12
			That is why the children are confused.
		
00:49:12 --> 00:49:13
			You don't blame them.
		
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			But if you monitor them from baby, from
		
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			childhood, inshallah.
		
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			Shaitan will stay further from them.
		
00:49:25 --> 00:49:30
			Because shaitan cannot eat, cannot drink with them.
		
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			Each time they want to eat, bismillah, you
		
00:49:33 --> 00:49:33
			say right hand.
		
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			Shaitan cannot eat.
		
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			When shaitan have no food, no drink, he
		
00:49:39 --> 00:49:40
			become weak.
		
00:49:41 --> 00:49:44
			Your child become stronger and the shaitan become
		
00:49:44 --> 00:49:45
			weaker.
		
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			He will be protected.
		
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			Examples, this few simple thing, make dua.
		
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			Then as they are growing up, they don't
		
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			know.
		
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			What is a dua?
		
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			Remind them, remind them.
		
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			The minute they can talk, teach them the
		
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			basic dua.
		
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			The very, very simple dua.
		
00:50:09 --> 00:50:09
			Short, short dua.
		
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			But how can you do that?
		
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			Because we don't even recite dua.
		
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			How are you going to help your children
		
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			when we don't even memorize the dua?
		
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			When the children wake up, yeah, what do
		
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			you say when you wake up from your
		
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			sleep?
		
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			Alhamdulillahil lazee ahyana ba'da ma'a matana wa
		
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			ilahi no shu How you enter the washroom,
		
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			the toilet?
		
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			Left foot, left foot, left leg, left.
		
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			I don't think a lot of parents today
		
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			are monitoring all this.
		
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			Supervising.
		
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			Go to toilet, toilet.
		
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			You don't know what he's doing there.
		
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			Example, you have to spend some time to
		
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			show your love and mercy to them to
		
00:51:01 --> 00:51:03
			make them become righteous children.
		
00:51:05 --> 00:51:07
			Then you will have a lot of peace
		
00:51:07 --> 00:51:08
			in the future.
		
00:51:10 --> 00:51:11
			But we overlook.
		
00:51:13 --> 00:51:15
			We send them to kindergarten.
		
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			Good.
		
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			From very young, they go to school.
		
00:51:20 --> 00:51:22
			But what kind of kindergarten?
		
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			Go and sing, go and learn how to
		
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			dance and sing.
		
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			A lot of school, they do a lot
		
00:51:31 --> 00:51:32
			of crazy activities.
		
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			But if you still want to send them
		
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			to play, no problem.
		
00:51:40 --> 00:51:42
			But you must monitor them.
		
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			When they are back home, you reinforce all
		
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			the Islamic values.
		
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			That is how the upbringing of a Muslim
		
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			children, yeah.
		
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			Make dua.
		
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			Teach them the dua.
		
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			Taught them simple instruction.
		
00:52:02 --> 00:52:04
			Remind them the simple thing that they have
		
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			to be alert.
		
00:52:07 --> 00:52:08
			It's like eating, drinking.
		
00:52:08 --> 00:52:11
			They always eat your right hand, right hand.
		
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			Instruct them.
		
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			After they take something from there, remind them.
		
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			Put it back later on.
		
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			Where you took it, put it back.
		
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			Discipline them from young.
		
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			When they are eating, don't waste.
		
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			Teach them not to waste.
		
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			Inshallah.
		
00:52:35 --> 00:52:38
			Inshallah, as they grow up, they value the
		
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			food.
		
00:52:40 --> 00:52:42
			They understand what is kindliness.
		
00:52:44 --> 00:52:45
			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			And when you pray, you can even carry
		
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			them sometimes when they are, yeah.
		
00:52:57 --> 00:52:59
			Baby, you can carry them.
		
00:52:59 --> 00:53:01
			If you leave them down, they may start
		
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			to crawl here and there or they may
		
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			cry and disturb you in your prayer.
		
00:53:05 --> 00:53:06
			Carry them.
		
00:53:09 --> 00:53:11
			The only thing when you carry a baby
		
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			while you are praying, of course, you always
		
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			carry left hand because you are going to
		
00:53:17 --> 00:53:18
			make takbir.
		
00:53:18 --> 00:53:19
			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			But don't forget you are carrying a baby.
		
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			Suddenly takbir, you raise two hands.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Boom.
		
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			Then you know you cannot pray anymore.
		
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			The baby is going to cry.
		
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			You hurt the baby.
		
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			Carry them.
		
00:53:35 --> 00:53:36
			The Prophet show you.
		
00:53:36 --> 00:53:37
			Carry your left hand.
		
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			Pray.
		
00:53:37 --> 00:53:38
			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			And then when you go down, still, you
		
00:53:43 --> 00:53:44
			still hold them.
		
00:53:45 --> 00:53:48
			When you come to sujood, before you make
		
00:53:48 --> 00:53:50
			sujood, you go down, then put them down
		
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			and you make proper sujood.
		
00:53:53 --> 00:53:55
			But when you are coming up, carry them
		
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			again and go for the second, rakat, third,
		
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			and fourth.
		
00:54:00 --> 00:54:02
			The Prophet show us.
		
00:54:02 --> 00:54:03
			Islam is I don't care.
		
00:54:03 --> 00:54:04
			I'm going to pray.
		
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			Let him cry.
		
00:54:08 --> 00:54:12
			Then you disturb, yeah, the jamaat.
		
00:54:13 --> 00:54:16
			And some imam don't have common sense.
		
00:54:18 --> 00:54:21
			When they hear their baby crying, shorten your
		
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			prayer.
		
00:54:21 --> 00:54:25
			If you want to reset sabihis, surah akh
		
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			lagu, inna akh ta'ina.
		
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			Make it short.
		
00:54:29 --> 00:54:29
			It's okay.
		
00:54:31 --> 00:54:34
			But some imam, the more the baby cry,
		
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			shaitan.
		
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			He's not saying he cannot say that deep
		
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			inside.
		
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			He read longer surah.
		
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			They don't have feeling.
		
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			The Prophet have alert his ummah.
		
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			When you are praying, you must show mercy
		
00:54:52 --> 00:54:55
			to the old, to the sick, and to
		
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			the children.
		
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			If they are crying, hasten your prayer.
		
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			But you, all the adab, you must follow.
		
00:55:03 --> 00:55:07
			Only you don't prolong all the long surah.
		
00:55:07 --> 00:55:08
			Cut it short.
		
00:55:09 --> 00:55:12
			To show that you have mercy to them.
		
00:55:15 --> 00:55:17
			You know there's a view there.
		
00:55:17 --> 00:55:18
			I don't know if it's true or not.
		
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			This is about adab, not children anymore.
		
00:55:24 --> 00:55:27
			When they are starting to pray jamaat, suddenly
		
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			one adab just like to run in front
		
00:55:30 --> 00:55:30
			of the staff.
		
00:55:34 --> 00:55:36
			Maybe he was taught to run before, when
		
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			he was a baby.
		
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			Now when he is about 10, 15 years
		
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			old, he still run.
		
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			And he run in front of the staff
		
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			of the jamaat.
		
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			Only one guy who is daring enough, when
		
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			he was running, running, come to his time,
		
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			he just stop him and push him so
		
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			he fall.
		
00:56:07 --> 00:56:08
			All these are discipline.
		
00:56:08 --> 00:56:10
			You must educate the children from young.
		
00:56:11 --> 00:56:12
			Then this will not happen.
		
00:56:15 --> 00:56:18
			If not, they don't know that praying is
		
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			something so important that you must have adab.
		
00:56:27 --> 00:56:30
			The prophet sometimes will kiss the children.
		
00:56:30 --> 00:56:31
			Baby, kiss them.
		
00:56:32 --> 00:56:35
			You don't have to kiss on their lip.
		
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			Kiss their forehead.
		
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			And it's good the children sometimes will also
		
00:56:42 --> 00:56:44
			kiss your hand.
		
00:56:45 --> 00:56:46
			But you don't have to teach them to
		
00:56:46 --> 00:56:47
			kiss your feet.
		
00:56:49 --> 00:56:51
			Some culture go down.
		
00:56:53 --> 00:56:56
			But not necessary to that level.
		
00:56:56 --> 00:56:59
			Because we are worried they start to worship
		
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			you.
		
00:57:01 --> 00:57:02
			Hand, okay.
		
00:57:06 --> 00:57:08
			That's why you see some scholars when people
		
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			want to kiss their hand, they allow.
		
00:57:11 --> 00:57:13
			But when too much, they say, okay.
		
00:57:18 --> 00:57:21
			And some people, you don't just kiss their
		
00:57:21 --> 00:57:22
			hand for nothing.
		
00:57:23 --> 00:57:26
			You kiss their hand, in return you must
		
00:57:26 --> 00:57:26
			give something.
		
00:57:29 --> 00:57:32
			That's why all the habaib, they like to
		
00:57:32 --> 00:57:35
			self-claim, I am the descendant of prophet
		
00:57:35 --> 00:57:36
			Muhammad.
		
00:57:36 --> 00:57:38
			From which family tree?
		
00:57:38 --> 00:57:39
			They create their trees.
		
00:57:42 --> 00:57:44
			And now they are coming with all the
		
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			robe, all the dressing.
		
00:57:47 --> 00:57:50
			So happens that he looks so handsome.
		
00:57:50 --> 00:57:53
			People say, look at him like looking at
		
00:57:53 --> 00:57:53
			the moon.
		
00:57:54 --> 00:57:56
			Full moon, so bright.
		
00:57:59 --> 00:58:01
			Then every time you touch his hand, you
		
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			must give them some money.
		
00:58:03 --> 00:58:04
			Barakah, barakah.
		
00:58:06 --> 00:58:08
			This is not a free kiss.
		
00:58:08 --> 00:58:12
			This is a kiss with some payment.
		
00:58:17 --> 00:58:19
			The danger is that people are starting to
		
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			worship this kind of people.
		
00:58:22 --> 00:58:24
			And they allow it to happen.
		
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			The prophet never allowed.
		
00:58:27 --> 00:58:29
			But children, it's different.
		
00:58:29 --> 00:58:33
			It's to train them to feel closer to
		
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			us, not scared.
		
00:58:36 --> 00:58:40
			And also, we show that we love children.
		
00:58:40 --> 00:58:42
			Show mercy.
		
00:58:43 --> 00:58:47
			Abu Hurairah reported that Allah's messenger, prophet Muhammad,
		
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			kissed al-Hassan bin Ali, his grandson, in
		
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			the presence of al-Aqra bin Habib al
		
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			-Tamimi.
		
00:58:58 --> 00:59:02
			Then al-Aqra commented, indeed I have ten
		
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			children and have never kissed any of them.
		
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			Sometimes Allah grants us with a lot of
		
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			children.
		
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			And they admit, I never kiss my children.
		
00:59:15 --> 00:59:18
			I want my children to be tough.
		
00:59:18 --> 00:59:21
			Too tough that the children don't respect you
		
00:59:21 --> 00:59:21
			anymore.
		
00:59:25 --> 00:59:31
			Allah's messengers looked at him and said, He
		
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			who does not show mercy, no mercy will
		
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			be shown to him by Allah.
		
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			You can be tough at the right time,
		
00:59:41 --> 00:59:42
			the right place.
		
00:59:44 --> 00:59:47
			But when you are playing with children, play
		
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			with them.
		
00:59:50 --> 00:59:53
			Even the prophet played with Hassan and Hussein.
		
00:59:54 --> 00:59:55
			Hassan is the eldest.
		
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			The last is Hussein.
		
00:59:59 --> 01:00:03
			These two names are very popular among the
		
01:00:03 --> 01:00:11
			Muslims and loved by the Shia, especially Hussein.
		
01:00:14 --> 01:00:17
			That's why when I became the Imam and
		
01:00:17 --> 01:00:19
			Director of the Islamic Centre in Hong Kong,
		
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			because my name is Hussein, so the Shia
		
01:00:25 --> 01:00:29
			group loved to invite me to their gathering.
		
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			I exposed a bit here and there, but
		
01:00:35 --> 01:00:39
			I don't know what they are doing sometimes
		
01:00:39 --> 01:00:43
			because I was not involved with their celebration
		
01:00:43 --> 01:00:44
			and all these things.
		
01:00:46 --> 01:00:50
			So one year, Muharram time, they invite me.
		
01:00:52 --> 01:00:57
			And they have their Ayatollah coming down to
		
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			Hong Kong.
		
01:00:59 --> 01:01:01
			Special day, special occasion.
		
01:01:03 --> 01:01:06
			And they start to talk about Hussein.
		
01:01:07 --> 01:01:08
			Start to talk about Ali.
		
01:01:11 --> 01:01:13
			And then they are going further and further
		
01:01:13 --> 01:01:14
			now.
		
01:01:14 --> 01:01:16
			From sitting down, they are standing up.
		
01:01:17 --> 01:01:18
			Now they are hitting their body now.
		
01:01:19 --> 01:01:19
			Yeah, Hussein.
		
01:01:20 --> 01:01:21
			Yeah, Hussein.
		
01:01:23 --> 01:01:25
			Everybody is hitting their body.
		
01:01:26 --> 01:01:26
			Hitting their face.
		
01:01:27 --> 01:01:28
			Hitting their back.
		
01:01:29 --> 01:01:29
			Harder and harder.
		
01:01:30 --> 01:01:31
			Harder and harder.
		
01:01:32 --> 01:01:35
			Their ambulance is ready already in case they
		
01:01:35 --> 01:01:36
			injure themselves.
		
01:01:36 --> 01:01:36
			No problem.
		
01:01:37 --> 01:01:39
			If heart attack, no problem.
		
01:01:39 --> 01:01:43
			Doctor is there to show their love towards
		
01:01:43 --> 01:01:43
			Hussein.
		
01:01:45 --> 01:01:46
			Towards Ali.
		
01:01:48 --> 01:01:50
			So when they stand, I also stand.
		
01:01:50 --> 01:01:51
			It's not good.
		
01:01:51 --> 01:01:52
			They stand, I sit down.
		
01:01:53 --> 01:01:54
			But they start to hit themselves.
		
01:01:55 --> 01:01:59
			I just look and get some experience.
		
01:01:59 --> 01:02:02
			Oh, this is how you celebrate the 10th
		
01:02:02 --> 01:02:03
			of Muharram.
		
01:02:07 --> 01:02:11
			So after 20 minutes, they're getting slower, slower.
		
01:02:12 --> 01:02:13
			Then they rest.
		
01:02:13 --> 01:02:15
			Now they're back to normal.
		
01:02:16 --> 01:02:20
			After that, that's where they introduce Bubur Asura.
		
01:02:22 --> 01:02:26
			That is the history of Bubur Asura.
		
01:02:27 --> 01:02:29
			The Malay are very popular with this.
		
01:02:30 --> 01:02:32
			Because anything to do with food, we remember.
		
01:02:36 --> 01:02:38
			Why you call Bubur Asura?
		
01:02:39 --> 01:02:42
			Because they start to cook a dish.
		
01:02:45 --> 01:02:51
			Soapy, like soup, but with pan kind of
		
01:02:51 --> 01:02:53
			thing in this soup.
		
01:02:54 --> 01:02:58
			This bean, that bean, mixed with pan kind
		
01:02:58 --> 01:03:00
			of thing, and then they cook.
		
01:03:00 --> 01:03:02
			That's why they call Asura.
		
01:03:06 --> 01:03:10
			It's like the Chinese used to call *
		
01:03:10 --> 01:03:10
			Chai.
		
01:03:13 --> 01:03:14
			Mixed veggie.
		
01:03:15 --> 01:03:17
			You go to Chinese restaurant, you have this
		
01:03:17 --> 01:03:19
			veggie, you also have mixed veggie.
		
01:03:20 --> 01:03:22
			To them, they say * Chai.
		
01:03:24 --> 01:03:25
			* means 10.
		
01:03:26 --> 01:03:30
			10 type of vegetable.
		
01:03:33 --> 01:03:34
			So they mix.
		
01:03:35 --> 01:03:41
			Long bean, short bean, and all the different
		
01:03:41 --> 01:03:41
			type.
		
01:03:41 --> 01:03:42
			They mix and cook.
		
01:03:45 --> 01:03:46
			And now you have what?
		
01:03:51 --> 01:03:54
			The ABC, Ay Batu Champo.
		
01:03:56 --> 01:03:58
			Anything Champo, Champo, came from them.
		
01:04:02 --> 01:04:07
			After we finish eating, they ask me, Imam,
		
01:04:07 --> 01:04:12
			how do you feel about what have happened
		
01:04:12 --> 01:04:12
			just now?
		
01:04:13 --> 01:04:17
			I said, my whole body is aching now.
		
01:04:18 --> 01:04:20
			I feel pain everywhere.
		
01:04:20 --> 01:04:21
			Oh, you also feel?
		
01:04:23 --> 01:04:24
			That means good.
		
01:04:25 --> 01:04:27
			Yeah, because each time you beat yourself, you
		
01:04:27 --> 01:04:27
			call my name.
		
01:04:28 --> 01:04:30
			Yah Hosein, Yah Hosein.
		
01:04:30 --> 01:04:31
			No.
		
01:04:32 --> 01:04:33
			They start to laugh at me.
		
01:04:33 --> 01:04:35
			Of course, I don't hit myself.
		
01:04:36 --> 01:04:37
			Why must I injure myself?
		
01:04:44 --> 01:04:46
			But what I'm going to share with you,
		
01:04:46 --> 01:04:50
			even among the companions before, they are hardcore
		
01:04:50 --> 01:04:51
			people.
		
01:04:51 --> 01:04:54
			Arabs are very hard-hearted people.
		
01:04:56 --> 01:04:57
			They are not the soft ones.
		
01:05:00 --> 01:05:02
			That's why the Prophet was sent to the
		
01:05:02 --> 01:05:02
			Arabs.
		
01:05:03 --> 01:05:06
			If you can change this kind of people,
		
01:05:06 --> 01:05:07
			you can change other people.
		
01:05:08 --> 01:05:11
			Can you see how hard-hearted they are?
		
01:05:12 --> 01:05:15
			If the Prophet said, I'm the messenger, prove
		
01:05:15 --> 01:05:15
			to me.
		
01:05:16 --> 01:05:18
			Show me some miracle.
		
01:05:18 --> 01:05:22
			With the help of Allah, he showed them
		
01:05:22 --> 01:05:23
			the miracle.
		
01:05:24 --> 01:05:25
			They never believe.
		
01:05:27 --> 01:05:30
			Very hard-hearted people.
		
01:05:33 --> 01:05:36
			If we somebody can show you some miracle,
		
01:05:36 --> 01:05:37
			call us, man.
		
01:05:38 --> 01:05:40
			You don't know what's going to happen.
		
01:05:41 --> 01:05:44
			Everywhere you talk about him, and then you
		
01:05:44 --> 01:05:48
			are going to mention his name, call his
		
01:05:48 --> 01:05:50
			name, and you are going to promote him
		
01:05:50 --> 01:05:52
			very, very fast.
		
01:05:53 --> 01:05:55
			Because we cannot.
		
01:05:57 --> 01:05:58
			Our heart is very soft.
		
01:06:01 --> 01:06:07
			I was seeing some in the Instagram, people
		
01:06:07 --> 01:06:09
			worshipping this Sheikh.
		
01:06:09 --> 01:06:09
			Why?
		
01:06:09 --> 01:06:13
			They put him on the car, the rooftop,
		
01:06:15 --> 01:06:20
			and he was just holding a walking stick,
		
01:06:21 --> 01:06:25
			and he raised his two legs like he
		
01:06:25 --> 01:06:30
			was floating, like he was floating.
		
01:06:32 --> 01:06:32
			See?
		
01:06:33 --> 01:06:34
			Ajaib.
		
01:06:34 --> 01:06:39
			You move around the village, everybody, Sheikh, he
		
01:06:39 --> 01:06:40
			is floating.
		
01:06:40 --> 01:06:41
			See?
		
01:06:41 --> 01:06:44
			He just use a walking stick, and you
		
01:06:44 --> 01:06:48
			see both leg is up, and he still
		
01:06:48 --> 01:06:49
			float.
		
01:06:52 --> 01:06:52
			Wow.
		
01:06:52 --> 01:06:54
			Have you seen this before?
		
01:06:55 --> 01:06:56
			Wow.
		
01:06:59 --> 01:07:04
			I have seen this many times.
		
01:07:09 --> 01:07:12
			In China, many things happen.
		
01:07:16 --> 01:07:21
			They are so good, creative, innovative, they can
		
01:07:21 --> 01:07:25
			create something, and they tie it on your
		
01:07:25 --> 01:07:33
			leg, and you wear long sleeve, and then
		
01:07:33 --> 01:07:36
			you can just raise up your two leg,
		
01:07:37 --> 01:07:40
			because the thing is there to support you.
		
01:07:40 --> 01:07:43
			It's like you are sitting on that thing,
		
01:07:43 --> 01:07:44
			but no one knows.
		
01:07:49 --> 01:07:53
			Because I brought one with me here, but
		
01:07:53 --> 01:07:54
			I don't use it yet.
		
01:07:56 --> 01:07:57
			One day if I use it, suddenly I'm
		
01:07:57 --> 01:08:01
			sitting here, I raise my leg, but I'm
		
01:08:01 --> 01:08:02
			still sitting.
		
01:08:02 --> 01:08:06
			And people will come and try, is this
		
01:08:06 --> 01:08:07
			some seer?
		
01:08:08 --> 01:08:12
			Nothing you cannot touch, because it was attached
		
01:08:12 --> 01:08:13
			with my leg.
		
01:08:15 --> 01:08:18
			And you tie it properly, and then now
		
01:08:18 --> 01:08:21
			you can just raise up your leg, pretend
		
01:08:21 --> 01:08:23
			that you are sitting, and that thing will
		
01:08:23 --> 01:08:25
			help you to be stable.
		
01:08:27 --> 01:08:28
			You can get this in China.
		
01:08:28 --> 01:08:29
			China wonders.
		
01:08:29 --> 01:08:32
			They can do so many things.
		
01:08:35 --> 01:08:38
			To layman, can see in the Sheikh, he
		
01:08:38 --> 01:08:39
			must be the descendant of Prophet.
		
01:08:40 --> 01:08:41
			You see, he float.
		
01:08:44 --> 01:08:48
			Please, be careful.
		
01:08:50 --> 01:08:54
			Aisha, radiallahu anha, reported that some Bedouin who
		
01:08:54 --> 01:09:02
			visited Prophet Muhammad, asked his companions, Do you
		
01:09:02 --> 01:09:03
			kiss your children?
		
01:09:03 --> 01:09:05
			They asked among themselves.
		
01:09:06 --> 01:09:08
			The companions said, Yes.
		
01:09:09 --> 01:09:12
			The Bedouin said, By Allah, we never kiss
		
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			them.
		
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			The Bedouin is the desert, the village Arab.
		
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			So the Prophet said, Awa amlikulakum inna za
		
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			'allahu min qulubikum rahma.
		
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			What can I do for you, if Allah
		
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			has removed mercy from your heart?
		
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			The Prophet now is, you have moved the
		
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			slide?
		
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			Good.
		
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			What can I do for you, if Allah
		
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			has removed mercy from your heart?
		
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			You know, mercy, brothers and sisters, is a
		
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			gift from Allah.
		
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			Fa bima rahmati minamuhi linda lahum.
		
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			Even our Prophet, Allah said, It is Allah
		
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			who has put the mercy into your heart,
		
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			Ya Prophet Muhammad, to have the love towards
		
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			the young, the poor, the needy.
		
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			It's a gift.
		
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			But of course, we must train our children
		
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			from young, and Allah will grant them the
		
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			mercy.
		
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			When the person have mercy, when he talk
		
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			to people, he's a very soft-spoken person.
		
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			Layyin.
		
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			When you have no mercy, you scream at
		
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			people.
		
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			When you have no mercy to your children,
		
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			you scream at them, shout at them.
		
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			But when you have mercy, you don't do
		
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			that.
		
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			You talk to them, you engage with them.
		
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			When you talk to them, you call them
		
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			to come, you hold them, you touch them,
		
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			you carry them sometimes.
		
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			Have you seen when the children, when you're
		
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			a baby, when you're two, three years old,
		
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			you're walking, when the children is tired, what
		
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			do they do?
		
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			They like to run, walk, but when they
		
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			are tired, and you are there, what do
		
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			they do?
		
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			Anybody remember?
		
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			What do these children do?
		
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			You can't remember?
		
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			Very simple.
		
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			These babies, they like to run because they
		
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			don't want to keep on sitting, they run,
		
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			but when you are with them, when they
		
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			are tired, they just surrender to you.
		
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			They raise up their hands.
		
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			When they surrender to you, what do you
		
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			do?
		
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			You also surrender.
		
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			They raise their two hands, you also raise
		
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			your two hands.
		
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			What they want, they want you to carry
		
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			them.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			I love to see children like that.
		
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			When they do that, Mashallah, I will quickly
		
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			carry them.
		
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			My grandchildren, when they come, they will jump
		
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			on us because they like that hug.
		
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			But now they are growing up, now they
		
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			are 13, 14, they still want to jump.
		
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			So we say, no, no, no, you can
		
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			come, we can hug you.
		
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			Jumping, we are worried that we will fall
		
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			because you are getting bigger and heavier now.
		
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			But you love to see them just surrender
		
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			themselves.
		
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			Because children, you see, very easy, they can
		
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			sleep while walking.
		
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			You carry them, they are gone already.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			It's an enigma.
		
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			Children can sleep anywhere, anytime.
		
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			So this is just to show us, when
		
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			you don't show mercy, that means your heart
		
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			is very hard and it's not good.
		
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			You can humble yourself.
		
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			If you are not used to it, the
		
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			Prophet himself is showing the example, follow him,
		
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			simple as that.
		
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			If you never kiss your children before, now
		
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			kiss them.
		
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			Play with them.
		
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			You know what is the discipline that normally
		
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			parents have towards their children?
		
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			If they don't listen, if they are naughty,
		
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			what do you say to them?
		
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			You know, in your house, for the Chinese
		
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			family, we have this.
		
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			I don't know about the other nation or
		
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			race.
		
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			When we are very naughty, when we are
		
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			young, baby, and the parents who want to
		
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			discipline us, mostly are mother.
		
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			But the mother is very, very alert about
		
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			the character of the children, not the father.
		
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			The father is always a hero because the
		
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			father always corrupts the children.
		
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			They have no time to spend with children,
		
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			so they buy presents, they give them ice
		
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			cream, they give them this, chocolate, and make
		
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			them more energetic.
		
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			That's why they love their father.
		
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			But the mother knows in and out of
		
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			the children because they are the one who
		
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			is taking care of the children.
		
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			But sometimes mother also fails.
		
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			If you are not alert and you do
		
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			not work together as a family, father and
		
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			mother, as a team to discipline your children,
		
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			you are going to fail them.
		
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			So when we are very active, too active,
		
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			the mother said, kneel down in front of
		
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			the idol.
		
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			The Chinese have their idol at home which
		
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			they believe this is their god, their deity.
		
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			Discipline yourself, kneel down there and don't move.
		
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			No food, no drink.
		
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			And grandparents, if still around, they will come
		
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			and interfere.
		
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			Enough, enough.
		
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			But mother was like, don't let them move
		
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			from their place.
		
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			Leave them there until we drop.
		
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			Sit too long, then you're gone.
		
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			Or some parents, they don't have this, they
		
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			don't have this belief.
		
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			They call, you go to that corner.
		
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			What corner is that?
		
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			Anybody remember?
		
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			You can see in time out, that is
		
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			called naughty corner.
		
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			You don't see anybody except that corner.
		
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			Look there.
		
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			Stand there.
		
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			Different people have different discipline.
		
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			But the prophet love us not to punish
		
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			them in that manner.
		
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			Talk to them.
		
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			They don't understand.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			You said Alhamdulillah just now?
		
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			Good, Alhamdulillah.
		
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			So Abu Huraira, r.a, reported, Indeed Allah's
		
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			messenger used to stick his tongue out for
		
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			Al-Hassan bin Adid.
		
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			When the baby saw the redness of the
		
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			prophet's tongue, he rushed to him.
		
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			Meaning the prophet like to play with the
		
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			grandchildren.
		
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			It's good to play, play with them.
		
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			They play their game that do not cause
		
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			harm to them.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			Even you want to give them toys today,
		
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			it's okay.
		
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			But please make sure you give them the
		
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			right toys.
		
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			I always educate a lot of my students
		
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			that was from the 80s who have children.
		
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			Don't buy sword or gun for the children
		
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			from very young.
		
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			They learn how to shoot at each other.
		
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			Bang, bang, bang.
		
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			Of course there's no bullet.
		
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			But you are training them to shoot at
		
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			each other.
		
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			Then people are not careful with my advice.
		
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			They saw these people are selling toys and
		
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			shield and sword.
		
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			They go and buy for their children.
		
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			So what happen when they are praying, the
		
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			children come with the sword from behind and
		
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			poke them.
		
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			Especially when they are making rokok or sujud.
		
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			Then they feel the pain.
		
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			Children don't know it's a game.
		
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			Everything is a game to them.
		
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			They thought that this is a game.
		
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			They don't know it's going to hurt somebody.
		
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			They don't know.
		
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			So you must be careful even game that
		
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			you want to play with them, toy that
		
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			you want to buy for them, that do
		
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			not train them to cause harm to themselves
		
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			and also give them the opportunity to harm
		
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			others, which they don't know.
		
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			So it's very important.
		
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			We hope Allah give us the wisdom.
		
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			So please wisdom come from Allah again.
		
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			وَيُعَلِّهُ الْكِتَابُ وَالْحِكْمَةُ By reading the Quran, understand
		
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			the Quran, looking at the sunnah of our
		
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			Prophet, you will get a lot of information.
		
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			How to engage with your children.
		
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			That's why I was talking to the group
		
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			of our participants yesterday.
		
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			Don't use three S's with your children.
		
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			Three S's.
		
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			Don't shout.
		
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			Don't scream.
		
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			Don't keep on scolding them because they don't
		
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			know.
		
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			Talk to them.
		
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			Engage with them.
		
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			Guide them.
		
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			Coach them.
		
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			But you must be alert.
		
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			But when the children is growing up, the
		
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			children can learn and the elders teach the
		
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			young one.
		
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			Help is our duty so that our younger
		
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			brother and sister will respect us, will love
		
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			us when they grow up because we are
		
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			helping them.
		
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			We show mercy to the younger one and
		
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			they will respect the elders because we take
		
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			care of them.
		
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			That's how we work in a family.
		
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			Parents show good example and now the elders
		
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			among the family is taking over.
		
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			Help the parents by teaching the younger sibling.
		
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			So we work like one big family.
		
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			Then you see these young children that you
		
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			have who are the elders in the family.
		
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			Even they are young, but they have all
		
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			the good values.
		
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			They are starting to have the mercy to
		
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			the younger sibling.
		
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			They don't bully the younger one.
		
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			And when they say something, the younger one
		
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			responds to the elders because we care for
		
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			each other.
		
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			Inshallah, we have the elderly boy with us.
		
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			If you have any younger sibling, show.
		
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			And then if you have the nieces, your
		
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			cousin, show them you care about them.
		
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			Remind them.
		
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			If they become good through your little effort,
		
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			you get reward from Allah.
		
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			This cousin of you who are so young
		
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			is showing good example, good character because of
		
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			you helping them.
		
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			Can you imagine all the good thing they
		
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			are doing now?
		
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			You collect the reward from Allah.
		
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			Everybody can play the part.
		
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			Everybody can do something before it's too late.
		
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			Then later you say, my cousin or that
		
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			cousin, he's very bad.
		
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			Why he become bad?
		
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			You know and you don't do something.
		
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			That's why amal ma'ruh nahi munkar is
		
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			the responsibility for every one of us.
		
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			You see something wrong, you have to help
		
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			and correct it.
		
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			Don't just leave it and then they don't
		
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			know that that is wrong because they are
		
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			younger than you so you can tell them.
		
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			Talk to them.
		
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			Stop them from doing something that is wrong.
		
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			Maybe your age group is not that far,
		
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			so easy for you to talk to them.
		
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			You can play with them, but while playing
		
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			you remind them.
		
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			You know next time you don't do this,
		
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			you don't do that.
		
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			You don't throw things like this, don't throw
		
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			things like that.
		
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			You just don't go to any people's house
		
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			and take things without their permission and where
		
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			you took it, you must keep, put it
		
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			back.
		
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			You discipline.
		
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			Then now this cousin of yours or your
		
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			nieces or your nephew, they pick up the
		
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			good value and it is from your effort
		
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			when you was young, 10, 15 years old,
		
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			you are showing all these good example to
		
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			the younger one and now they grow up
		
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			and they become so good.
		
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			They will remember you.
		
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			Until today when we have a family gathering,
		
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			normally I recall my elder sisters.
		
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			You know the elders always have to sacrifice
		
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			more because the young one want extra attention.
		
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			So the parents have to attend to the
		
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			younger one, ignore the elders one.
		
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			I always share my experience with all other
		
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			siblings because among the boys, I'm the youngest,
		
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			but I have two younger sisters and the
		
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			rest are elders.
		
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			I will recall my elder sister's sacrifice.
		
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			She just give in.
		
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			She just help the other sibling.
		
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			Anything to do with food, he let them
		
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			eat first.
		
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			And she will come in and help to
		
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			clean everything.
		
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			I still remember.
		
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			So I always share all this good experience
		
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			with all the other siblings.
		
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			We are blessed to have the elders who
		
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			care for us.
		
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			It's not like today the elders, they eat
		
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			first.
		
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			They don't share it with the younger sibling.
		
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			They make the younger sibling cry always.
		
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			Amang do this, kakak do this.
		
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			Don't do that.
		
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			You must show good example.
		
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			So may Allah grant us extra mercy so
		
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			that wherever you go, you bring love and
		
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			mercy to your family, to the sibling, and
		
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			to the people around you.
		
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			Ameen.
		
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			Inshallah, if there's any question, now you're open
		
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			for question and answer.
		
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			Tafadhal.
		
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			Any question online?
		
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			Bismillahirrahmanirrahim.
		
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			From Sister Ilyani Rosmady.
		
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			Assalamualaikum, Sheikh.
		
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			Waalaikumussalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
		
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			What is your opinion on our Malay culture
		
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			where children need to salam, handshake the elders
		
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			to teach them respect?
		
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			Repeat slowly the question.
		
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			What is your opinion on our Malay culture
		
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			where children need to salam, handshake the elders
		
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			to teach them respect?
		
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			What is our opinion when certain culture like
		
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			the Malay have their own culture, when you
		
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			meet the elders, you go and shake their
		
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			hand to show respect.
		
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			It's okay, no problem.
		
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			It's a good culture.
		
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			Any good culture that don't contradict the Islamic
		
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			value, you can carry on.
		
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			But it's also good once in a while
		
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			you learn how to hug the elders.
		
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			When you are still very young, you can
		
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			hug them, especially they are your mahram.
		
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			That is good.
		
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			But there will come a time we are
		
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			growing and then you are akhir baligh.
		
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			Then the non-mahram, you don't do that
		
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			anymore.
		
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			You just respect them, call them with their
		
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			titles and then that's all.
		
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			Give salam.
		
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			Normally, teach them to give salam.
		
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			A lot of people say, go and salam
		
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			with your uncle, go and salam with your
		
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			auntie.
		
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			But what the children does, they just go
		
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			and hold their hand, kiss their hand without
		
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			saying salam.
		
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			That is not what the Prophet want you
		
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			to do.
		
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			When you say go and salam, means give
		
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			salam.
		
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			So we adults must also teach them.
		
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			When they don't give salam, they just want
		
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			to hold your hand, kiss your hand, you
		
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			say, what do you say?
		
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			If they don't remember, teach them, give salam.
		
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			Say, assalamualaikum.
		
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			Teach them.
		
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			Then you say assalamualaikum, then you respond, waalaikumsalam
		
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			rahmatullahi wabarakatuh.
		
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			That's how you have to discipline them.
		
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			They started with something good, but if you
		
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			just ignore, they will never get used with
		
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			giving salam.
		
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			They just come and hold your hand, shake
		
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			your hand, kiss your hand.
		
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			But that is not what the Prophet want
		
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			us to do.
		
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			Teach the children to say salamualaikum.
		
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			It's like our children sometimes, the young one
		
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			while they are talking, they sneeze.
		
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			After that they keep on talking, they don't
		
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			say alhamdulillah.
		
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			So what should you do?
		
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			Remind them, you say alhamdulillah.
		
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			You say no, say now, say now.
		
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			Alhamdulillah.
		
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			Then you respond, yurhamqullah.
		
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			And then you want them to respond, they
		
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			don't memorize.
		
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			Then you guide them.
		
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			Respond, yahdiikumullahu muslibah.
		
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			All this exercise, reminder, is to connect your
		
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			children and yourself with Allah.
		
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			To remember Allah.
		
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			That's how we should move on.
		
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			Don't take things for granted.
		
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			Ah, it's okay, next time.
		
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			No next time on the spot you correct.
		
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			The habit of next time never come.
		
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			Normally people will come to me, they hold
		
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			my hand, I say, what do you say?
		
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			They don't know what to say because the
		
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			parents don't remind them.
		
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			Say assalamualaikum.
		
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			Then assalamualaikum.
		
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			Waalaikumussalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
		
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			Then I say, remember when you salam, you
		
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			see any Muslim, give salam.
		
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			Assalamualaikum.
		
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			That is the proper manner, naam.
		
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			Next, yah, sister.
		
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			Pass the mic to the sister.
		
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			Assalamualaikum, Shaykh.
		
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			Waalaikumussalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
		
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			Okay, regarding the last question, right, but what
		
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			about the parents who are worried to teach
		
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			their kids to give salam to people in
		
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			regards to afraid of diseases or adults with
		
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			bad intentions?
		
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			Show me one example, okay.
		
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			So, like we want to teach kids.
		
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			To give salam, okay.
		
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			But also the concept of stranger danger.
		
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			The concept of what?
		
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			Stranger danger.
		
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			Greater danger.
		
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			Stranger.
		
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			Strangers.
		
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			Strangers, okay.
		
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			Yah, so nowadays there are a lot of
		
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			cases who kids who are very nice and
		
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			they are being manipulated by adults with bad
		
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			intentions.
		
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			Yah, so what about that?
		
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			How do we find the balance?
		
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			Thank you.
		
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			Of course, the children is always with us.
		
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			So when we bring them to visit friend
		
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			or anything to elders, we remind them to
		
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			give salam.
		
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			Of course, these are our friend, a stranger
		
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			to our children.
		
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			It's okay.
		
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			But we don't want them to just go
		
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			and, you know, to any stranger and give
		
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			salam.
		
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			Yah, the stranger can be very cunning today.
		
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			The stranger can start to give them sweet,
		
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			win them over, kidnap them, and gone.
		
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			Today the world has changed.
		
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			Don't play with strangers.
		
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			We as adults must be alert.
		
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			We must be there.
		
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			You see, today people go for the kill.
		
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			They don't care.
		
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			They cannot do all the bad things, but
		
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			they just pass it over to another group,
		
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			and they can get good money.
		
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			Thousands of dollars, they can just get one
		
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			baby and pass it to somebody, and people
		
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			will start to operate them and get his
		
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			organ.
		
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			It's gone.
		
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			So we must be very alert today with
		
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			all that is happening around us.
		
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			Don't play it around.
		
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			That's why I always remind all the young
		
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			people when you send your children to the
		
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			playground, and you must be there.
		
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			And the biggest problem sometimes, even in the
		
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			Instagram, you'll see, when people was there, the
		
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			adult is there, but the adult is busy
		
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			with the handphone.
		
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			The children is playing, and it's disappeared.
		
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			And that's why when the people who are
		
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			very alert about this, when they saw this
		
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			happen to the other, they come to their
		
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			parents, they take their phone, they throw and
		
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			smash it.
		
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			See what is happening to your children.
		
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			You don't care.
		
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			We must be alert.
		
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			When you go outdoor today, you must be
		
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			careful.
		
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			You have a lot of people who are
		
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			just waiting for your carelessness.
		
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			They strike.
		
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			Be alert.
		
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			Even you go shopping complex, everything, you go
		
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			and buy grocery, you bring your children, alert,
		
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			make sure they are always beside you.
		
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			This is a killer.
		
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			This handphone can kill a lot of people.
		
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			Sometimes the people might, you have the phone,
		
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			baby, you have the phone, child.
		
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			Wow.
		
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			If they are going to, it's a bite.
		
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			We don't want anybody to regret.
		
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			And you cry for what?
		
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			It's not too late.
		
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			Once it's gone, gone.
		
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			So we all must be alert.
		
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			It's not our children, but it's other people's
		
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			children.
		
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			And something happens, what do you do?
		
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			What do you do?
		
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			You don't care.
		
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			Sometimes we behave like, it's not my children,
		
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			I don't want to get involved.
		
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			That is very bad.
		
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			You see something wrong immediately, you come in.
		
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			That's why they always see, these are people
		
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			who care.
		
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			The security today is up to every one
		
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			of us.
		
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			You cannot depend on the official security.
		
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			Even the police today, security guard today, they
		
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			don't see.
		
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			Gone case.
		
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			That's why in China now, they have every
		
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			security person must have a body cam.
		
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			If you don't play your role, they will
		
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			monitor you.
		
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			And immediately, they will just send a message
		
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			to you or call you back.
		
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			What are you doing?
		
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			We pay you for you to just play
		
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			around.
		
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			See your handphone.
		
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			No, you, your duty is to look at
		
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			the environment.
		
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			Of course, when stranger is stranger, must be
		
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			careful.
		
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			Especially at home, you know, stranger, Assalamualaikum.
		
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			Assalamualaikum.
		
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			Careful.
		
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			You have the right not to respond if
		
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			you don't know them.
		
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			That's why the Prophet even say, when you
		
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			go to any home, you give salam three
		
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			times and the one don't respond, leave.
		
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			They adapt.
		
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			Because you don't know who they are.
		
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			They may come and tell all this.
		
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			Don't respond.
		
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			The best thing, any stranger, and you are
		
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			not been informed earlier, don't respond.
		
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			Play safe.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Any other last question?
		
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			Second last question?
		
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			Any question from the younger boys?
		
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			No.
		
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			You understand what we have been sharing with
		
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			all of you?
		
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			For those who are elderly than their other
		
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			sibling, play your role as an elderly brother.
		
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			Play your role as an elderly sister if
		
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			you have somebody who is younger than you.
		
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			Then you gain respect because they know you
		
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			care for them.
		
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			You love them.
		
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			You show mercy to them.
		
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			They will love you more.
		
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			You know?
		
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			They will always say to their friend, I
		
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			have a brother, a cousin brother.
		
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			I have a very good cousin brother.
		
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			That is what we want.
		
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			So may Allah help us, brothers and sisters,
		
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			and protect all of us and our family
		
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			from all kind of fitan, challenges and danger.
		
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			Yeah?
		
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			And may Allah accept our prayer, forgive all
		
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			our sins, our carelessness.
		
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			And may Allah forgive those who have passed
		
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			away.
		
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			These few days, a lot of our friends
		
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			who passed away.
		
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			Yeah?
		
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			Some leaders who have passed away.
		
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			So may Allah shower His mercy upon their
		
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			soul, forgive them, and may Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala place them among the righteous people.
		
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			Ameen.